If It Isn't Love?

If it isn't love, why do I feel this way,....why does "he" stay on my mind?!!! Go ahead, New Edition! They just don't make songs like that anymore! :) Well, today's topic is Love and how do you know when you're in it. I know it's early to start with such a cliche topic but let's face it, it's one of the most important experiences that one will ever have or need in this crazy world. The funny thing is that I recently came to realize that I never seem to know when I am in love! The last couple of times I fell for someone, my friends informed me...."You're in LOVE", "You LOVE him", or "You luah that boy" (lol). Now, you may find that amusing but I am starting to get a little concerned here. I recently met someone (when I wasn't looking) and I really enjoy spending time with him. He's stable, masculine, funny and really raw whenever he wants to be. Weeks later, one of my dearest friends told me I loved him. I squinted my eyes and turned her and said, "I do?"....No, no I don't"! She looked at me with a knowing face that didn't require another word. He's in transition (who isn't after 30yrs) and trying to overcome the challenges of balancing work and life. In the beginning , I was glowing like a glow worm and anyone around me could feel my warmth. It's now a short time later and the glow has turned into somewhat of a dim light. Don't get me wrong, this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine...oh, this lil light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine, let it shine, hmmmm, mmmmm but things have felt more like a roller coaster ride then a stroll in the park. We had a little quarrel and when i thought we were going to split ways, i drove all over town trying to find a Mary J. so I could sing my heartfelt pain. I even made my "all knowing" friend ride with me to the 24hr Walmart to see if it was available when I couldn't find it at the used tape/CD store. Is that love or am i just a little crazy? Never less, we made it over that hump and i found the CD i wanted at Best Buy for $20. At this point, I know that I think of him all of the time and really enjoy spending time with him but does it have to have a title? What is the determining factor that makes it officially love?